On an unrelated note: the discussion of Ianto’s sexuality is ridiculous. What’s so important about whether he’s gay, straight, gay-for-Jack and straight-for-Lisa, bi or unlabeled? Srsly this annoys me too much to elaborate.
This seems to be a big deal to some in the slash fandoms. I'm not sure whether it stems from some folk who are still uncomfortable with teh gay, or because they like the idea of TWU LUV so much that THIS relationship is the only one that can possibly count. The number of fic in many fandoms where I've read some variation of, "But I've never loved anyone as much/the same way as I've loved you" is too numerous to count.
That particular theme is a big one from the romance book genre as well. THIS relationship being better/stronger/more loving than any other. If I had to guess, I suppose I'd say it's the wish fulfillment of folk who like the idea of ONE LOVE stronger than all others, with happy little sighs and hearts drawn on their notebooks.
In case I seem too harsh, let me say that I don't mind the whole true love idea up to a certain point. I know, intellectually, that there are other men out there that I could love, but my husband is the center of all things wonderful in my life. Thus, I have a hard time knocking it when I'm living it! And, as someone who lives it, I know it also doesn't come without the occasional disagreement and mutual fuck ups. It's not the fairytale version of TWU LUV, but it's a whole-hearted full partnership.
This is another reason I defend the reasonable domestic fic that are out there. If they are a couple, then they'll act like a couple no matter who they are. At least in private, and there is more than one way to act like a couple; not everything includes hanging all over each other, smooching, and saying ILU all the time. (Those are the domestic fic that I avoid.)
Hope I didn't digress too much, but it's the end of the day and my thoughts are plentiful, but scattered!
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Date: 2009-07-07 09:37 pm (UTC)This seems to be a big deal to some in the slash fandoms. I'm not sure whether it stems from some folk who are still uncomfortable with teh gay, or because they like the idea of TWU LUV so much that THIS relationship is the only one that can possibly count. The number of fic in many fandoms where I've read some variation of, "But I've never loved anyone as much/the same way as I've loved you" is too numerous to count.
That particular theme is a big one from the romance book genre as well. THIS relationship being better/stronger/more loving than any other. If I had to guess, I suppose I'd say it's the wish fulfillment of folk who like the idea of ONE LOVE stronger than all others, with happy little sighs and hearts drawn on their notebooks.
In case I seem too harsh, let me say that I don't mind the whole true love idea up to a certain point. I know, intellectually, that there are other men out there that I could love, but my husband is the center of all things wonderful in my life. Thus, I have a hard time knocking it when I'm living it! And, as someone who lives it, I know it also doesn't come without the occasional disagreement and mutual fuck ups. It's not the fairytale version of TWU LUV, but it's a whole-hearted full partnership.
This is another reason I defend the reasonable domestic fic that are out there. If they are a couple, then they'll act like a couple no matter who they are. At least in private, and there is more than one way to act like a couple; not everything includes hanging all over each other, smooching, and saying ILU all the time. (Those are the domestic fic that I avoid.)
Hope I didn't digress too much, but it's the end of the day and my thoughts are plentiful, but scattered!